Sean-E-Sean wrote: 

 kysmet wrote: 

...typo/fixed...ha!...

 kysmet wrote: 

  So, as long as your pictures adequately portray how beautifully adorable you are (and what you really look like,) you "needn't" worry about that, but I get that it's not all that of a rational worry. 

 phineas wrote: 
Nice to hear about their experiences and thanks, you're sweet

 meower wrote: 
Physically...I have major hang-ups where that's concerned.  I'm really trying to work on being happy now, though, instead of waiting until I look the way I want to look.  It's hard.

 kysmet wrote: 
One of my sisters-in-law went through eharmony and is in a great relationship — 5 years now, and he just moved in with her (moved to the coast from Denver). One sister used it and met a nice guy. Didn't pan out in the end, but they were a pretty good match on a lot of levels.

And hey, when they meet you in person, they'll love your bad old self — they'll be worried about living up to you

 kysmet wrote: 

Do you mean wont be what they expected physically or personality wise?

 kysmet wrote: 
You've got nothing to lose.  You don't have to meet anyone you don't feel drawn to.  Or use them as practice.  (That sounds mean, but you can still have a pleasant time with someone, even if they're not THE ONE, and you're honest about it.)

I created a profile on eharmony a while ago but never really pursued anything (a couple friends have had very good experiences with it).  My problem is that I am hesitant about meeting people in person.  I have no problem communicating with them; it's just my own insecurity that when they meet me, I won't be what they expected.  Last night, I got fed up with my situation and updated my profile.  I haven't subscribed yet but they have some specials going on so I probably will so that I can actually communicate with people.  I just really need to get over my hesitation but don't know how.

 private_di wrote: 
It's like dating IRL. Most dates are duds, and maybe you'll be lucky if you meet someone. It just broadens your scope. The older you get the worse the men are, but also, that's like real life. It's good practice, if nothing else.

If you like to dance, try to find a contra or barn dance group. There are usually single men, most of them losers, depending on where you live, but some good ones. LOOK FOR A YOUNGER MAN! Depending on what you are looking for, a young man might be more interesting.

I met my very best friend on a dating website. I met a couple other interesting guys as well, one who still remains my friend after a few years. I had a sexual relationship with the guy, 14 years my junior, that sold me my car, and it lasted for 6 months. It's something you have to create for yourself, if you want it.

 newwavegurly wrote: 
Sad but true.

 oldslabsides wrote: 
Me too.

 newwavegurly wrote: 

private_di wrote: before i met my husband (see "oldslabsides" below), i did on line dating for a few years. i had what have to be some of the worst experiences of my social life through the process of on line dating!

i did meet a couple of really nice people, but, for the most part, i had total failure in the endeavor.
(i consider "a couple of nice people" out of the TWENTY THREE i met to boil down to "total failure!!")
most were in my relative age group (40's), so the age difference thing was not an issue for me. of course, you filter people by certain criteria on line, including age.

perhaps you should set your filters properly in order to designate your desired age group??

anyway, there were other...many other...issues instead that caused things to go wrong with the vast majority of candidates.

i have even been asked to write a book about my experiences, because i collected some unbelievable stories in the process of on line dating.

sorry you're having a bad time of it.

 newwavegurly wrote: 
Ayup.  I know about a few of those as well.

 oldslabsides wrote: 
For every story of love on RP, there are plenty of stories about broken hearts that people here are not privy to. 

 newwavegurly wrote: 
An excellent disclaimer, J.

I know of at least three marriages of people who met here, but I don't think any of them came here "looking for love."  Strictly speaking, P and I did not meet on RP, but were introduced by a mutual friend who is also a member of the community.

Beware, as RP is NOT a dating site.

Although there are people that have wound up in relationships that met through here, RP is not a dating site, nor was/is that the intention of it. Trying to use it as such is probably not a good idea. If you become friends with people here, and it becomes something romantic, so be it—but if you come here and pursue people here as if it IS a dating site, not only will you probably be disappointed, but it could cause problems.
 
My 2¢. 

 PoundPuppy wrote: 
This sounds good to me...I feel I have more in common with this crowd than Plenty of Fish which I have used maybe 3 times...Got tired of seeing the same old guys on there, most who can't spell, whose shed and 4 wheeler is their favourite pastime and who are looking for their soul mate to cuddle at night..barf. Yeah yeah, I know what you are thinking, no wonder she has no luck. bawk bawk

 private_di wrote:  Yes, I tried a couple of online dating services shortly after a bad breakup, but I was still not over my ex so it couldn't work. However, when I got over her, I then didn't feel the need to find someone and that is exactly when I did. Bottom line; when it comes to finding someone it usually happens when you are looking the least.