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KurtfromLaQuinta

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Posted: Sep 23, 2010 - 9:07pm

 peter_james_bond wrote:
Thank you RPeeps, you people are the greatest! There is a lot of wisdom in your replies. I'm starting to feel better already. I will spend more time with my kids, I will shake things up, I will get out of this rut, I will surround myself with optimism generators. But, I don't know about a press conference in my pajamas....or the Dodge...{#Think} {#Biggrin}

 
Works for me. {#Mrgreen}
Alexandra

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Posted: Sep 23, 2010 - 7:12pm

I create it when I realize that it feels so much better than the alternative. It's easier to revisit optimism when I remember how much bigger my world becomes when I operate within it....more doors and opportunities and other optimistic people seem to appear when I am in that space

I create it by maintaining a heart full of gratitude for every damn little thing in my life....

It also helps to have goals that I'm working toward....


oldviolin

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Posted: Sep 23, 2010 - 7:10pm

 hippiechick wrote:
Letting go of our stories and being present.

 
My stories are a large part of my presence...

you can let go of your's if you wanna...

samiyam

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Posted: Sep 23, 2010 - 7:07pm

 hippiechick wrote:
Letting go of our stories and being present.

 
 
"Its JUST a story!"
 ~ Adyashanti ~

hippiechick

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Posted: Sep 23, 2010 - 7:03pm

Letting go of our stories and being present.
BlueHeronDruid

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Posted: Sep 23, 2010 - 7:00pm

 oldviolin wrote:


Yep. I have to re learn that one quite often it seems...

 
Me too. Like, every time. I'm smart that way.

samiyam

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Posted: Sep 23, 2010 - 6:56pm

I go to the local 7-11 store, I buy a half a dozen Slim Jims, A large Dr. Pepper, and a copy of Sports Illustrated and sit down in the shade...
oldviolin

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Posted: Sep 23, 2010 - 6:55pm

 BlueHeronDruid wrote:

Giving up attachments to outcomes helps me a lot.
 

Yep. I have to re learn that one quite often it seems...
BlueHeronDruid

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Posted: Sep 23, 2010 - 6:52pm

 oldviolin wrote:
By overcoming the small sufferings grappled with on a day to day basis, so that when the big ones and the really big ones come along randomly, you have a fighting chance to be able to take a punch and get back up...To have that will toward survival is optimistic by definition. 

 
Giving up attachments to outcomes helps me a lot.

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Posted: Sep 23, 2010 - 6:50pm

 cookinlover wrote:

Define definition.
 
Look down at your torso. It aint that.

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Posted: Sep 23, 2010 - 6:49pm

 cookinlover wrote:

Define definition.
 

the under of over
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Posted: Sep 23, 2010 - 6:47pm

 oldviolin wrote:
By overcoming the small sufferings grappled with on a day to day basis, so that when the big ones and the really big ones come along randomly, you have a fighting chance to be able to take a punch and get back up...To have that will toward survival is optimistic by definition. 

 
Define definition.

oldviolin

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Posted: Sep 23, 2010 - 6:45pm

By overcoming the small sufferings grappled with on a day to day basis, so that when the big ones and the really big ones come along randomly, you have a fighting chance to be able to take a punch and get back up...To have that will toward survival is optimistic by definition. 
Red_Dragon

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Posted: Sep 23, 2010 - 5:40pm

{#Lol}
Proclivities

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Posted: Sep 23, 2010 - 3:55pm

 peter_james_bond wrote:
Thank you RPeeps, you people are the greatest! There is a lot of wisdom in your replies. I'm starting to feel better already. I will spend more time with my kids, I will shake things up, I will get out of this rut, I will surround myself with optimism generators. But, I don't know about a press conference in my pajamas....or the Dodge...{#Think} {#Biggrin}

 
Sometimes accomplishing or completing anything can help - even something as mundane as doing the dishes and cleaning the sink afterward or scooping out the stinky litter-boxes. Often, starting and completing simple tasks can create more energy to take on the bigger things.  I'm not saying it will make you as happy as a lark, but it can help revive the attitude of optimism once you realize that you can accomplish things.

kurtster

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Posted: Sep 23, 2010 - 2:41pm

 Southern_Boy wrote:
Optimism is an attitude. No one can make you have a bad or good attitude. You decide every day what your attitude will be. And the helping kids thing really works for me. That's why I coach.

 
Optimism is an attitude.  That is the key statement.

My response is too long for here and probably TMI, so I made a journal out of it.

{#Cheers}
hippiechick

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Posted: Sep 23, 2010 - 1:42pm

 cc_rider wrote:

There is a book called 'Feeling Good' by David Burns. It is worth reading: it shows some ways to look at your feelings differently. It's not intended to replace medicine to correct chemical imbalances, but it can help people with, say, depression, see things in a different light.

Keep us posted brother...
 
That's what I was going to suggest, and now I wish I would have checked that out today.

I was having a very bad morning today, so I forced myself to get up and out of the house. I rode my bike to the library, bank, Radio Shack, grocery and Panera, bought lunch there and took it to a park and ate. That really lifted my spirits.

The world is prolly not any worse off than it's ever been, at least in the past several hundred years. When I was preggers with my daughter, in 1979, the nuclear clock was at 1 minute to 12 and I used to lie in bed and wonder how I had the nerve to bring a child into this hell hole...and yet we are still going. My history teacher used to say, The sun always rises every morning. How is everything in your life right this moment? Are you breathing? Check. Good place to start.

Don't watch the news, or shows about the future, they just scare you. Volunteer; there are always lots of people who would benefit from your kindness. Do something to make a difference, even if it's just a difference for you. And make a list of all the things that make you so lucky to be you, like a hot shower, people you love, your dog, whatever.

hippiechick

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Posted: Sep 23, 2010 - 1:40pm

 cc_rider wrote:

There is a book called 'Feeling Good' by David Burns. It is worth reading: it shows some ways to look at your feelings differently. It's not intended to replace medicine to correct chemical imbalances, but it can help people with, say, depression, see things in a different light.

Keep us posted brother...
 
That's what I was going to suggest, and now I wish I would have checked that out today.

I was having a very bad morning today, so I forced myself to get up and out of the house. I rode my bike to the library, bank, Radio Shack, grocery and Panera, bought lunch there and took it to a park and ate. That really lifted my spirits.

The world is prolly not any worse off than it's ever been, at least in the past several hundred years. When I was preggers with my daughter, in 1979, the nuclear clock was at 1 minute to 12 and I used to lie in bed and wonder how I had the nerve to bring a child into this hell hole...and yet we are still going. My history teacher used to say, The sun always rises every morning. How is everything in your life right this moment? Are you breathing? Check. Good place to start.

Don't watch the news, or shows about the future, they just scare you. Volunteer; there are always lots of people who would benefit from your kindness. Do something to make a difference, even if it's just a difference for you. And make a list of all the things that make you so lucky to be you, like a hot shower, people you love, your dog, whatever.

peter_james_bond

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Posted: Sep 23, 2010 - 1:32pm

Thank you RPeeps, you people are the greatest! There is a lot of wisdom in your replies. I'm starting to feel better already. I will spend more time with my kids, I will shake things up, I will get out of this rut, I will surround myself with optimism generators. But, I don't know about a press conference in my pajamas....or the Dodge...{#Think} {#Biggrin}
rosedraws

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Posted: Sep 23, 2010 - 1:02pm

 winter wrote:
Shake yourself up, because you don't get out of a rut by driving straight ahead.
 

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